The downfall to living in a neighbourhood where you are surrounded by other kids, is that they talk.. too much and about things they should not be talking about. Apparently, not discussing wages is only applicable when you are old enough to handle a job, when you are old enough to have co-workers and have been taught that discussing wages is inappropriate. Thanks neighbour kids for jacking up the going rate for everything from the tooth fairy to Santa Clause and now allowance! I reached out to many friends for tips on how to handle this next conversation with Ava but ultimately had to find a system that worked for our family!

I have been one of those lucky mothers who has managed to have her child to do chores without having to pay for it until now! We recently increased Ava’s chore list from only having to take care of the recycling to adding in loading and unloading the dishwasher and tidying of the room daily! This had been going well, she was managing it, she handled her list like a champ…. until one day when left unattended they got allowance!

A: “about these chores, how come I don’t get paid?  All the other kids get paid!”

M: “are you freakin’ kidding me?!”

A: “No, all the other kids get money for doing their chores! I want to get something for doing this!”…

This is an excerpt from the article 3 Tips to Negotiating Allowance Rates which originally appeared on