I recently read and enjoyed The Year We Turned 40 (linked to my review at 5 Minutes for Books). It follows 3 close friends during the year they turn 40. It opens with Jessica giving birth to an illegitimate baby, the product of a one-night stand with a dad she knows from her kids’ school. Ten years later on the eve of their 50th birthdays, the 3 friends look back with regrets. Jessica is still eaten up over the subsequent breakup of her marriage. Gabriela fell in love with baby Lucas and regretted her choice not to have kids, but instead of doing something about it before it was too late, poured herself into her career. And Claire wishes she had spent more time with her mother who died of cancer 9 years earlier, and regrets not being stricter and setting better boundaries with her daughter. The women are given the chance to go back and do things differently, only to find that their new choices will have unforeseen consequences as well.

I found the idea intriguing. If I could go back 10 years, would I? What would I do differently? Are there things I could do that would change the life I live today, and would I risk losing what I like about my life the way it is?…

This is an excerpt from the article The Year We Turned 40, and What We Might Have Done Differently which originally appeared on 5 Minutes for Mom.